Monday, January 1, 2018

Get Real in 2018 – Not With More False Resolutions, But With Genuine Priorities


Several years ago, I saw the movie “The Bucket List” starring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman.  Jack Nicholson plays an uncaring multi-millionaire named Edward, who has everything money can buy; and Morgan Freeman plays Carter, a humble and very knowledgeable mechanic.  These perfect strangers meet as patients in a hospital room (actually it’s Edward’s hospital) where they both discover they have cancer and have only a year to live.

“The Bucket List” is a list of all the things to do before you ... “kick the bucket.”  These two men decide with only a year left to live they aren’t going to let their cancer hold them back from following their dreams.  So Carter heads off with Edward in his private plane as they begin living out what they think are their dreams and life goals, much to the chagrin of Carter’s wife and family.  I don’t think I’m ruining the movie for you if you haven’t seen it, but throughout their journey they begin to discover what’s really important in life; and I’ll give you a hint -- it’s not about going halfway around the world to see wonders of the world or live in luxury.  They discover it has more to do with faith and relationships; family and friends.

I felt the idea behind this movie is a perfect launching point for the New Year … because the New Year tends to be a time when we think about our life as we reflect back on the past year and the things we did or didn’t do; the happy moments; the regrets; the disappointments.  And then we look at the New Year as a fresh start; a chance to change things and do better this year.  Some of us even make New Year’s resolutions.  A resolution goes something like, “I resolve that over the next year I am going to ... eat less ice cream” … or something like that

Well, resolutions are one thing.  But a “Bucket List” is different; it’s a bigger idea … because it is more than just what I want to change, do better, or differently over the next year.  The “Bucket List” is looking at the end of your life and asking; what would you like to have accomplished before you leave this earth?  Supposing you have only a year left to live, what regrets would you have if they weren’t done before you die?  What things have you left undone?  I can imagine some peoples lists would be like Edward’s and Carter’s: kiss the prettiest girl in the world; make a million dollars; skydiving; and maybe drive a favorite car model.  Those may sound like pretty fun things to do, but I’m going to challenge you to begin creating a “bucket list” for yourself based not just on what you want to do, or what would be fun or exciting (that was the problem Edward and Carter ran into); but prayerfully create a list of things that are really going to matter at the end of our life.

Now, you might be thinking, why a “bucket list?”  Isn’t this rather depressing?  Why would we want to talk about our death or kicking the bucket?  Shouldn’t we be focusing on more positive things?  It’s interesting that even Christians don’t like thinking about how short their life is.  Yet, listen to what David wrote in Psalm 39; he actually asked God to remind him how brief his time is on earth.  Psalm 39:4-5 reads, “LORD, remind me how brief my time on earth will be.  Remind me that my days are numbered, and that my life is fleeing away.  My life is no longer than the width of my hand.  An entire lifetime is just a moment to you; human existence is but a breath.”  [hear/view my message entitled “Setting Priorities in Life” at https://livestream.com/accounts/3709164/events/7937477?t=1514297092571 as I expound on this text]

Supposing you find out tomorrow that you only have a year left to live.  Would that cause you to change what you are doing?  It is being intentional about doing what really matters.  It will have to deal with our relationships and with our faith.  What loose ends would you like tied up?  Relationships resolved?  When people are at your funeral, what do you want them to say about you?  What are you doing right now to accomplish these goals?

As we create a “bucket list,” we are really asking, what are my priorities?  What’s so important it has to be done or become a part of my life before I die.  It’s more than just thinking, what would be a cool thing to do.  It’s realizing my life will be incomplete without this.  It’s prioritizing what is really the most important things, and making them a reality in our life right now.  Unfortunately, as we’ve already mentioned our life usually doesn’t reflect our priorities, we live according to our unwritten real priorities.

What are these unwritten real priorities?  Your real priorities are identified by honestly asking yourself three simple questions:
* Where do I spend my time?
* Where do I spend my money?
* What do I think about most often?

These are your real priorities.  You can claim whatever priorities you think you have, but the answer to these three questions reveals what your priorities really are.  What we want is for our real priorities to match our hoped for priorities.

Listen: When creating a “bucket list” or setting your priorities, there are two things to keep in mind:
1) Ask, what does God want me to do; not what do I want to do? 
2) Don’t limit God.

Through Christ God gives us the power to tackle God-sized dreams.  If God tells us in His Word to do something, then God will give us the strength, the ability, and the means to do it.

What needs to go on your “bucket list?”  What needs to become a priority in your life?

May your focus in 2018 be on real priorities and not on seasonal resolutions.

Rev. Dr. Kenneth L. Beale, Jr.
Chaplain (Colonel-Ret), U.S. Army
Pastor, Ft. Snelling Memorial Chapel

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